4) Community ("others")
I believe if you separate God from family (and even from "others"), you’ve missed the heart of the Gospel. The account in the Gospels that is used to justify that separation (Mark 10:28-30) is misinterpreted badly – taking something that was said to disciples / apostles called on specific “missions” and extrapolating it to everyone. That passage says:
28 Then Peter began to say unto him, Lo, we have left all, and have followed thee.
29 And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel’s,
30 But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.
I believe it is critical to read this passage in context - not reading more into it than is there.
Peter was married. We know this, because Jesus healed his mother-in-law. (Matthew 8:14) We don't know from the record, but it is likely that he and his wife had children. It is likely the same was true of the other disciples who traveled with Jesus. Therefore, it is correct for Peter to say, "Lo, we have left all, and have followed thee."
However, it is a HUGE stretch - an erroneous assumption, imo - to think that they literally left their wives and children for good - that they "divorced them", per se. That runs counter to everything else that Jesus taught - and that was taught after his death by those apostles. It is much more likely that they left them to serve a mission, if we translate it into our modern terminology - and that Jesus was assuring them that if such a decision led to their family divorcing or disowning them they would be compensated richly for their sacrifice.
Finally, as I've said in others posts, Adam had a choice in the Garden of Eden: Leave God to stay with his wife, or leave his wife to stay with God. He chose his wife over God, trusting in faith that, by so doing and truly becoming one with her, he would not be leaving God at all. I believe that is one of the primary messages of the Garden narrative, and I think we devalue our theology when we devalue marriage by placing God above it.
My priorities are:
1) My wife and kids;
God is the constant that runs through and binds all of my priorities, not a separate priority in and of itself.
There’s a lot more I could say about that, but I believe the idea that God is more important than wife and kids is a pernicious misconception that is tied to the Protestant, apostate idea that our highest divine hope is purely individual. That ought not be taught among us.